The Most Powerful Ways to Create a Positive Attitude
In this article, we’ll learn the most powerful ways to create a positive attitude and learn to see opportunity in every situation. We’ll discuss positive tips that will help you to build confidence, and change your thoughts to create a more abundant mindset.
It seems that when we have everything planned out completely perfect that those are the plans that always seem to fall flat. How many times have you been so excited for an outcome that you’re floored when you hit a snag?
I’ve been there more than I can count! And I have to admit, that in the past, I used to quit on those little snags. I’d let myself rather not do anything rather than trying again: “because that didn’t work.”
Today, we’re going to talk about how to create a positive attitude and turn your shortcomings into opportunities. Within this article, we’ll dive into how our thoughts can make a little snag turn into a ginormous problem and how to learn from it!
Grounding Yourself & Exploring your Thoughts
Learning how to see the positives from your failures takes a lot of focus. We’re so hard-wired to just throw our hands up and grumble about the negatives. Especially as we get older, it’s so easy to dig ourselves into ridiculous habits that end up making us miserable.
Think about this:
When you were growing up did you tell yourself: “this is it, this is the end of THAT” when you made a mistake? You kept trying until you got better and fell into your own rhythm. You learned what didn’t work to find the answers on what does.
As time goes on from childhood to now, our mindsets begin to become more and more limiting if they’re left unchecked. Our brains start collecting data from every little thing that we have done and recording it for future emotional reference.
If left unchecked and allowed to run wild, your thoughts will go to worse case scenario every time for every new situation.
Your mind remembers those multiple failures and says: “well, we’re not going to go through that again, don’t do it!” This is a classic case of a fixed mindset, a negative spiral, and it is something that arise from thoughts that are left unchecked.
When you work on how you process your thoughts, you begin to break free of that negative, limiting spiral. Those “I can’t” thoughts and “I’ve failed” thoughts become less prominent when you start to focus in on how you view yourself and your actions.
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Getting to the Root of Your thoughts
For this next exercise, set aside some time to really hone in your answers. Get descriptive, get down deep to find out what insight you can gather to create a more positive attitude and mindset.
I do encourage you to write down these thoughts rather than just thinking them out. This way you can refer back to what you learned, what you felt, and what you said without having to recall it.
When you hit a snag or stumble, what is your initial emotional reaction?
Take some time with this and go through what your emotional pathway is. Are you frustrated, at first? Sad, at first?
Knowing what your initial emotional reaction is a good first step to find out which way your thoughts go. Which direction are your emotions pointed: towards yourself or outward?
Ask yourself these hard questions when writing out this question to see where your opportunities are!
Describe your most recent disappointment, what happened?
For this question, its easy to write about the emotional response to it, but let’s make it all about the facts. Write your answer as if you were watching it from a far, if you were an omnipotent observer. Or a fly on the wall, whichever analogy best fits!
What happened in the situation? What were you doing and what was the outcome after your snag? Unleash your inner reporter and get the facts!
What did you do after your initial emotional reaction?
Going back to your answer from above, what did you do afterwards? Did you get back on track slowly? Did you give up? What happened?
For this question, you can hang your report hat up and go back to being you. Dive into those emotions afterward your stumble, did it domino into other aspects? What else was affected by this chain reaction?
Examining your Answers & Diving Deeper
Looking at your answers can be tough. But it’s a learning experience for you when you can look at what you did, what your reactions are, and then using that to change the future.
When really get deep into personal development, that light switch goes off along the way that your future reactions are all able to change now.
Right now: not later, not in the future.
Your past, although sometimes painful, can be your best tool from learning and growing from. The better we know ourselves, the easier it is to steer ourselves to where we want to be.
Again, those questions were hard. It’s hard to look at failure and try to see the silver lining, but it’s there!
This is where your positivity will begin when you begin to look at your circumstances as opportunities. When you start to look deeper into your reactions (your thoughts, your emotions) you begin to see where you can make immediate changes.
When you first start creating a positive attitude, you’ll need to be open and honest with yourself. It’s easy to explain away why we do things the way that we do them.
To help you on your journey, I have a workbook packed with exercises that will help you to become more positive, and help to see opportunity in all of your circumstances.
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Now that we’ve cleared the air, let’s look at how we can learn from ourselves, so we can start to overcome our shortcoming and begin our path to positivity!
Opportunity Instead of Blaming
When a failed plan falls at our feet, we can knee-jerk into that bad habit of blame. We can blame others, we can blame ourselves, but what that does is prolong our emotional response.
This emotional response can ruminate in your thoughts and cause you to become stagnant when you could have picked back up and started again!
Instead of falling into the easy habit of blaming, look at why your plan failed and what you can take away from it. Was it poor planning? Was it something out of your control?
Learning to fuel your creative brain by looking outside of the normal path is a huge step towards tapping into your limitless potential. When you stop looking at the destination and listen to the lessons along the way, you begin to hear the tools you can plug into other areas of your life.
Prioritizing Your Health & Wellness
A self care routine can be difficult to implement, especially when you’ve been stuck in a negative spiral for a long time. We get so wrapped up into all of our short-comings that we stop practicing being kind to ourselves when we stumble.
When we don’t take care of ourselves, we begin to lose our grip on everything around us. This, in turn, “proves” that we have failed and digs us even deeper into negative self-image.
With self care, starting small can give you the momentum and confidence to recharge yourself and begin to soothe those old wounds of your past.
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Practicing Emotional Control
When you’re learning how to create a more positive attitude, your emotions are usually the ones to blame for that failure dragging on longer than it should.
Our thoughts are great at finding evidence to make us never do that again. But it’s also good at making sure we don’t forget how bad that was. Your thoughts then will begin attaching emotions to themselves that will make the thought last longer.
Analyzing your emotions is a great way to curb that feeling of “I’m a failure, I have failed.”
Having an understanding over what you put out from your thoughts into emotions is a huge, ginormous step towards how to truly create a positive attitude and keep going.
When you know why you think a certain way and focus on changing that thought process, you begin to be able to change the emotional output.
Instead of “I’m a failure, I didn’t reach my goal” you have the ability to change that thought into something that’s not-negative.
Something like: “I have the ability to try again.”
This simple switch will take focus and time, but it begins to change that negative, limiting thought into true, positive growth for your future.
You can only ever control your thoughts, emotions, and actions. When you start to focus on stopping these responses, you begin to change the outcome. And you begin to change that snag into a growth opportunity.
Stepping Back & Seeing the Big Picture
Going back to that out of control thought of “I’m a failure, I didn’t reach my goal.” Are you looking at the big picture or are you looking at a milestone? Do you have a clear end-goal with milestones in between?
Losing sight of big picture and keeping your nose down can lead you down a negative path when you’re so focused on one aspect of your goal. With this, you begin to neglect to see that you still have the ability to reach your goals. Just on a different path.
Once you change the thought from failure to opportunity, your emotions from negative to positive, then you can begin to look at the big goal. You know, THE goal.
Unleash your creativity to go to work by thinking of new ways to get towards your big, end-game goal. When you use what you learn and stop ruminating on what didn’t work, you start working with your mind. Not against it.
Begin your Day with a Positive Attitude
This one was huge for me and something that really made a big difference with just a simple, quick action each day.
Shifting your thoughts to focus on what you like about yourself, what you’re good at, will need to be done every day during the beginning stages. Keeping a journal with one positive thing about yourself each day will rebuild that relationship with you.
If you’re struggling with creating a positive affirmation for yourself, use one of these from below! Saying these aloud each morning will help to lead you down a path towards a more positive self image.
Once you get the hang of saying these to yourself, you can branch out and begin to create your own for each and every day!
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