Radical Self Love & Self Acceptance

The idea of self-love and adopting an acceptance mindset can be a hard one to integrate into your life. Within this article, we’re touching on two amazing resources to bring you back to a place of more understanding and acceptance of who you are.

Finding a place of self-acceptance can be a tough routine to find yourself in. When it comes to ourselves, we tend to have a lot of harsh criticisms over every little thing that we do.

Sometimes the harsh things we say to ourselves would never be said to another person.

Whether you’re coming from low self-esteem, lack of confidence, or just feeling deflated from a burden you carry, loving yourself and adopting an acceptance mindset is crucial.

Self-love is sometimes mistaken for cockiness, vanity, or even selfishness. These negative thoughts are brought on by the toxicity of others or maybe even ourselves, thus repeating our own criticisms.

This endless cycle of criticism and toxicity is what lead us to move farther and farther away from our own acceptance and self-love.

Don’t feel as if you’re stuck in that cycle.

Self love and self acceptance don’t have a cap on when you can start practicing. In fact, sometimes the more time we’ve spent away from practicing it, the better we feel when we’ve reached true acceptance.

So, after being critical for so long, where do you start? How do you start accepting yourself?

These two resources below were major contributors to my own path towards self love and acceptance. These two books give you the building blocks to truly make the necessary steps to begin your journey towards more understanding and inviting self love back into your life.

Radical Acceptance by Dr. Tara Brach

This book was one that I wished that I picked up years ago. Not only does Dr. Brach bring in her two decades of therapy experience, she also brings in her understanding and teaching of meditation.

Writing with great warmth and clarity, Dr. Brach expresses her teachings alive through personal stories and case histories, fresh interpretations of Buddhist tales, and guided meditations. Step by step, she leads us to trust our innate goodness, showing how we can develop the balance of clear-sightedness and compassion that is the essence of Radical Acceptance.

Garnishing her gentle advice and guided meditation with beautiful bits of poetry and well-loved if familiar dharma stories, Dr. Brach describes what it can mean to open to the reality of other people, to live in love, to belong to the world.

Radical Acceptance is one of those books that I wish I had a very long time ago. From real solutions to true insights from others, this one will help you truly uplift and up-level your self-love practice.

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff

From Dr. Kristin Neff’s experience with self compassion feels as if she’s sitting down with you and holding your hand all throughout her transformational book.

Within this book, Dr. Neff offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life. She gives real solutions on how to break free from the constant race of trying to be the best and what true compassion towards ourselves looks like.

This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff—the world's foremost expert on self-compassion—explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective.